Your Little Garden

Dear Gabby

We wanted to create a special place where we could remember you.  A place where we could visit you and just remember the special little angel that came into our lives.

We were going to put your ashes in a beautiful memorial garden in Fourways.  Then as we talked about it we decided that the best thing we could do was to create a beautiful little garden right at home for you.  That way would could visit you whenever we wanted to and you would always be close to us.  Just a few steps away.

So we picked out a space in the garden, that mom was going to use to plant a vegetable garden but had been putting it off for a while already.  Guess that the space was waiting for you.

So, we went to a little place that makes pots for gardens and everything worked out so perfectly.  It was as if we were being guided by an angel to exactly where we needed to go to get all the pieces for your garden.

We went to the nursery and chose a whole lot of little flowers and tree's that reminded us of you.  Mom, Dad and your big sister Kayla all chose a few flowers that would fit perfectly in the garden. 

On the way home we found some wooden screens to create a sacred space just for you.  Dad had to go back and fetch them because we never had space in the bakkie.

We then went to another garden centre, had some lunch and bought the pieces to make the sign for your garden.  This was Kayla's project and she did such an awesome job.  We also got a beautiful Cross that Kayla chose and some other signs to put up as well.

And so the building of your garden began.

We all worked very hard to create your little garden, especially Dad.  He put down the stone pavers and levelled out the area. We completely miscalculated the number of pavers and Dad had to go the next morning to get some more.

After all the pavers were put down, Kayla then started to plant the little pieces of grass in between the pavers, she did such an awesome job.

Once all the pots and the little bench was in place we started to plant all the little tree's and flowers, we all pitched in and did it together.  It was a real bonding experience for our little family. 

Its amazing how in the time of such pain and tragedy that we have all come together as a family and how this how ordeal has helped us to grow closer together and just focus on our love for your and for each other.

We have left one bit pot open for you, so that when you are finally home we can lay you to rest in your little garden.  We can finally finish your garden and focus on taking care of it, nurturing it and making sure it grows with love.




Your garden is as beautiful as you, and every moment we spend in it - we can connect with you and talk to you and just remember you.  Our love for you, blossoms into our love for each other and my hope is that we can learn to see the world through your eyes, through unconditional love for each other and for life.

Even as I am writing this I am hearing a tiny little voice saying " I am always with you, you dont need a special place".  I think we already know this, I talk to you all the time and I know Dad does as well.  I hope that you can connect with Kayla, because she really needs you, but I think she is a bit scared of talking to you.  This is all so new for her - she has never had to deal with losing someone before.

Please take care of her, and let her know you love her and you care for her every day.


Its a beautiful place to honour you and a sacred place to focus on what is important in our lives - loving each other.

We also got so many flowers from other people which we need to still find place for.  Dad said we should just keep extending the garden all the way up the hill :-)

A big thank-you to everyone for all the beautiful flowers and once we are completely finished we will share the final result with everyone.



We love you so much Gabby and every morning when I see the beautiful garden and all the pretty little flowers I think of you and I think of how much we miss you and love you.

Love you Forever
Mom, Dad and Kayla